Hey Becky,
I know, it's scary at first and it's not easy. But they won't drop and you won't drop either - there's no hook except the one we've made up. Forgiveness looks like healing, looks like transformation, looks like people being more comfortable in relationship and really starting to relate with one another on a deep, real level where there's no fear. In my experience it looks like seeing people and being seen, at the very same time. It's "let go of what you think you know and be with what's left" in action, in everyday life.
Remember, if people are doing thoughtless, inconsiderate, even hurtful things it's because they are confused about who they are. If they were clear about who they are, and were feeling the love that is expressing itself as them, they wouldn't feel like doing those hurtful things; they'd be naturally leaning into actions that were more harmonious with the whole.
So, the best thing for them (and for you/me/everyone) is to know who they are, on their behalf, when they can't see it. Confirming their confusion, "Yeah, you jerk" and feeding that again and again doesn't do anything to help infuse clarity into a place where clarity is desperately needed.
And you and I and others here, for example, have been fortunate enough to have had moments of clarity, of feeling what's true. And we know it's true. Like Erich is always saying, "We're the current yogis on the planet." We are the ones we've been waiting for to come along and make a difference. We have the tools to do it, so let's be brave together and really do it and help each other keep doing it. The time is now. And, yes, it's scary, but it gets easier and easier the more you do it and it's really the important thing to be doing, I think.
I didn't mean to go on and on. I'm just hugely into this right now.
with love,
Carie
I know, it's scary at first and it's not easy. But they won't drop and you won't drop either - there's no hook except the one we've made up. Forgiveness looks like healing, looks like transformation, looks like people being more comfortable in relationship and really starting to relate with one another on a deep, real level where there's no fear. In my experience it looks like seeing people and being seen, at the very same time. It's "let go of what you think you know and be with what's left" in action, in everyday life.
Remember, if people are doing thoughtless, inconsiderate, even hurtful things it's because they are confused about who they are. If they were clear about who they are, and were feeling the love that is expressing itself as them, they wouldn't feel like doing those hurtful things; they'd be naturally leaning into actions that were more harmonious with the whole.
So, the best thing for them (and for you/me/everyone) is to know who they are, on their behalf, when they can't see it. Confirming their confusion, "Yeah, you jerk" and feeding that again and again doesn't do anything to help infuse clarity into a place where clarity is desperately needed.
And you and I and others here, for example, have been fortunate enough to have had moments of clarity, of feeling what's true. And we know it's true. Like Erich is always saying, "We're the current yogis on the planet." We are the ones we've been waiting for to come along and make a difference. We have the tools to do it, so let's be brave together and really do it and help each other keep doing it. The time is now. And, yes, it's scary, but it gets easier and easier the more you do it and it's really the important thing to be doing, I think.
I didn't mean to go on and on. I'm just hugely into this right now.
with love,
Carie
- awesome, rona. why didn't i think of that? 
moving toward forgiving myself ...and my perceived enemy.
Frangi's Panties, or not
